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Apps with which Parents Should Be Familiar

We want you to be aware of the following apps and the cons that go along with them. The following apps might be a simple way for your child to keep in contact with his/her friends; however,even innocent use of most of these apps can land a child in a situation he/she never intended to be in. Here are some potentially dangerous apps that are popular among young people. 

1. Tinder: An app that is used for hooking-up and dating. Users can rate profiles and findpotential hook-ups via GPS location tracking. 450 million profiles are rated every day.

The good news is, this app pulls information from user’s Facebook profiles, so it is more authenticated than other apps.

Problem: It is easy for adults and minors to find one another. Also, due to the rating system, it is often used for cyber-bullying, because a group of kids can target another kid and purposefully make his/her rating go down.

2. Snapchat: This app allows a user to send photos and videos to anyone on his/her friend list. The sender can determine how long the receiver can view the image and then the image destructs” after the allotted time.

Problem: It is the #1 app used for sexting, mostly because people think it is the safer way to sext. However, the “snaps” can easily be recovered and thereceiver can take a screen shot and share it with others. Also, a lot of images from Snapchat get posted to revenge porn sites, called “snap porn.”

3. Blendr: A flirting app used to meet new people through GPS location services. You can send messages, photos, videos, rate the hotness of other users, etc.

Problem: There are no authentication requirements, so sexual predators can contact minors, minors can meet up with adults. And again, the sexting.

4.Kik Messenger: An instant messaging app with over 100 million users that

allowsusers to exchange videos, pics and sketches. Users can also send YouTube videos and create memes and digital gifs.

Problem: Kids using the app for sexting and sending nude selfies through the app is common. The term “sext buddy” is being replaced with “Kik buddy.” Kids use Reddit and other forum sites to place classified ads for sex by giving out their Kik usernames. Also, Kik does not offer any parental controls and there is no way of authenticating users, thus making it easy for sexual predators touse the app to interact with minors.

5. Whisper: Whisper is an anonymous confession app. It allows users to superimpose text over a picture in order to share their thoughts and feelings anonymously. However, you post anonymously, but it displays the area you are posting from. You can also search for users posting within a mile from you.

Problem: Due to the anonymity, kids are posting pics of other kids with derogatory text superimposed on the image. Also, users do not have toregister to use Whisper and can use the app to communicate with other users nearby through GPS. A quick look at the app and you can see that online relationships are forming through the use of this app, but you never know the person behind the computer or phone. Sexual predators also use the app to locate kids and establish a relationship. One man in Seattle, Wash., was charged with raping a 12-year-old girl he met on this app in 2013.

6. one of the most popular social networking sites that is almost exclusively used by kids. It is a Q&A site that allows users to ask other usersquestions while remaining anonymous.

Problem: Kids will often ask repeated derogatory questions that target one person. Due to the anonymity of the badgering, it creates a virtually consequence-free form of cyber-bullying. has been associated with nine documented cases of suicide in the U.S. and the U.K.

7.Yik Yak: An app that allows users to post text-only “Yaks” of up to 200 characters. The messages can be viewed by the 500 Yakkers who are closest to the personwho wrote the Yak, as determined by GPS tracking.

Problem: Users are exposed to and are contributing sexually explicit content, derogatory language and personal attacks. Although the posts are anonymous, kids start revealing personal information as they get more comfortable with other users.

8. Poof: This app allows users to make other apps “disappear” on their phone. Kids can hide any app they don’t want you to see by opening the app and selecting other apps.

Problem: It’s obvious, right? Luckily, you can no longer purchase this app. But, if it was downloaded before it became unavailable, your child may still have it. Keep in mind that these types of apps are created and then terminated quickly, but similar ones are continuously being created. Others to look for: Hidden Apps, App Lock and Hide It Pro.

9. Omegle: This app is primarily used for video chatting. When you use Omegle, you do not identify yourself through the service. Instead, chat participants are only identified as “You” and “Stranger.” However, you can connect Omegle to your Facebook account to find chat partners with similar interests. When choosing this feature, an Omegle Facebook App will receive your Facebook “likes”and try to match you with a stranger with similar likes.

Problem: Sexual predators use this app to find kids to collect personal information from in order to track them down more easily in person.

10.Down: This app, which used to be called Bang With Friends, is connected to Facebook. Users can categorize their Facebook friends in one of two ways: They can indicate whether or not a friend is someone they’d like to hang withor someone they are “down” to hook-up with.

Problem: Although identifying someone you are willing to hook-up with doesn’t mean you will actually hook-up with them, it creates a hook-up norm within a peer group. Depending on your sexual values, this might be something you don’t want for your child. Also, because of the classification system, a lot of kids will feel left out or unwanted, which can lead to anxiety, etc.

11. Jailbreak Programs and Icon-Hiding Apps These aren't social media apps — and they're confusing — but you should still know about them (especially if you have a tech-savvy teen or have had to take away your child's mobile phone privileges because of abuse). "Jailbreaking" an iPhone or "rooting" an Android phone basically means hacking your own device to lift restrictions on allowable applications — meaning, the user can then download third-party apps not sold in the App Store or Google Play store (read: sometimes sketchy apps). It's hard to say how many teens have jailbroken their mobile device, but instructions on how to do it are readily available on the Internet. Cydia is a popular application for jailbroken phones, and it's a gateway to other apps called Poof and SBSettings — which are icon-hiding apps. These apps are supposedly intended to help users clear the clutter from their screens, but some young people are using them to hide questionable apps and violent games from their parents. Be aware of what the Cydia app icons look like so you know if you're getting a complete picture of your teen's app use.

12. Shots of Me: Justin Bieber has invested in this 12+ "selfie-only" photo-sharing app in part because he was attracted to its "anti-trolling" aspect; it does not have a comment section under photos posted on the app. Instead of a public comment area, the app has a direct-messaging feature where users can only send private messages to one another. The anti-trolling feature might also help ward off cyberbullying among teens who like to put meanness on display (but teens could still be nasty via private message). The app does show a user's location and how long ago a photo was added unless those features are managed in the app's settings. Shots of Me is currently available only for Apple devices. It's not the only "selfie-centered" photo-sharing app — another one called Frontback has a split screen that allows users to simultaneously share a regular photo and a selfie (think: a photo of the ocean and a selfie of the photographer sitting happily in a beach chair), and easily reveal their location.

13. Instagram:This hugely popular photo-sharing site is owned by Facebook, so you may be more familiar with it than with other photo-sharing apps. Users can add cool filters or create collages of their photos and share them across Facebook and other social media platforms. The app is rated 13+ and may be slightly tamer than Tumblr, but users can still find mature or inappropriate content and comments throughout the app (there is a way to flag inappropriate content for review). "Trolls" — or people making vicious, usually anonymous comments — are common. A user can change the settings to block their location or certain followers, but many users are casual about their settings, connecting with people they don't know well or at all. Check out's "A Parents' Guide to Instagram."

14. Tumblr: Many children and young teens are also active on this 17+ photo-sharing app. It can also be used for sharing videos and chatting. Common Sense Media says Tumblr is "too raunchy for tykes" because users can easily access pornographic, violent, and inappropriate content. Common Sense also notes that users need to jump through hoops to set up privacy settings — and until then, all of a user's photo and content is public for all to see. Mental health experts say that Tumblr can be damaging to adolescents' mental health because it tends to glorify self-harm and eating disorders.

15. Vine: Vine is Twitter's mobile app that allows users to shoot and share short loops of video (6 seconds or less). It's rated 17+, but children and teens are still downloading it. As with any multimedia app, the content on Vine runs the gamut from naughty to nice. "With the most basic creative searching, kids can find nudity, sex, drug use, offensive language, hardcore sexuality, and more," Common Sense Media says in its review of the app. "While there are plenty of cute, fun videos, even adults might be shocked at some of the things they find."

16. Poke: Poke is Facebook's app that, similar to Snapchat, promises that photos sent will "self-destruct" within seconds after they're received. While Poke isn't nearly as popular as Snapchat, it is still gaining young users who can use it for sexting. Also like Snapchat, the images sent via Poke can be saved or viewed with certain workarounds. The App store rates it ages 4+ (but it is connected to Facebook, which is a 13+ site).

 17. Voxer: This walkie-talkie PTT (push-to-talk) app allows users to quickly exchange short voice messages. They can have chats going on with multiple people at a time and just have to tap the play button to hear any messages they receive. Although it largely has an adult following, including some people who use it for their job, it's becoming popular among teens who enjoy its hybrid style of texting and talking. Hurtful messages from cyberbullies can be even more biting when they're spoken and can be played repeatedly. Surprisingly, the app is rated ages 4+ in the App Store.

18. Burn Note: Like Snapchat, Burn Note is a messaging app that erases messages after a set period of time. Unlike Snapchat, this one is for text messages only, not photos or videos. Burn Note's display system shows just one word at a time, adding a sense of secrecy to the messages. Again, by promising a complete delete, kids could feel more comfortable revealing more than what they would do otherwise. And again, capturing a screenshot so that the message can be shared and lives forever, may be the app's Achilles' heel.

Even if your kid doesn't have the app and has no interest in reading super secret messages, she could unwittingly get involved: The app sends a Burn Note alert that she has a message waiting. Curiosity can kill the cat and an app like this could encourage cyberbullying when kids feel they can get away with things because there will be no record of it.

19. Audio Manager: Sometimes when it walks like a duck and talks like a duck, it's really not a duck. Such is the case with Audio Manager, an app that has nothing to do with managing your teen's music files or controlling the volume on his smartphone and everything to do with him hiding things like nude photos from you. It's one of the top apps for hiding other apps.

Yes, there are such things. Kids can hide any app they don’t want you to see, Teen Safe says. When you press and hold the Audio Manager app, a lock screen is revealed -- behind which users can hide messages, photos, videos, and other apps.

20. Calculator%: Same deal, but this time with a calculator icon posing as something it isn't. Sedgrid Lewis, online safety expert, notes that these apps look like a normal calculator app but when teens push a button within the app they can hide all inappropriate pictures. "It's a key way teens are hiding their nude pictures from their parents," said Lewis.

Lewis says the best way to solve this situation is for parents to add their teen to their iCloud account. That way, whenever a new app is downloaded by the teen, it will automatically download to the parent's phone as well.

Think it's not serious? Last fall, there was a headline-making case in a Colorado high school where teens used apps to hide a huge sexting ring from parents and school officials. And an Alabama district attorney, Pamela Casey, posted the video below to warn parents about the Calculator% app.


Safety Beyond Facebook: 12 Social Media Apps Every Parent Should Know About

by Erin Dower

The 12 Apps That Every Parent Of A Teen Should Know About

Some apps just enable bad choices.

by Ann Brenoff

Scott Driscoll, President - Internet Safety Concepts

Today’s technology and apps - How to empower smart online choices

Then and Now - as adults we went from record players, 8 track cassettes, audio cassettes to Spotify, Pandora, etc. More media choices available.

Potential Problems if you don’t use these programs safely.

Picture sharing goes back to Polaroid photos. Facebook is fading with youth, described by youth as for grandparents.

Apps: Scott will talk about how they work and how you can get some control back. Offering Tips and Tricks to help kids use safely.

Digital footprints can have a huge impact.

Every time you load an app, you’re asked for push notifications. If friends go live you’re notified. If we say “yes” and that app can use our phone’s GPS, we’ve given notification. Say no to notifications initially until you learn how they work.

Instagram requests access to GPS. Set control to private. We need to know who with whom we’re connected. Go to Options and select private account.

Another consideration for apps is profiles. Give the required minimum. Give first letter of name and hit submit to see what comes back. Sometimes this is all you need.

Allowing links to other media sites can enable followers from other areas. There can be a crossover between Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc.

E.g., a picture at the state capitol in Instagram gives a map location. iPhone can add the address to contacts and provide directions. People across all platforms can see.

Instagram now allows private messages (in red circle on the top right). Following your child on Instagram doesn’t allow for parents to see private communication. Pictures disappear. Even if you delete, a screenshot can be taken.

Instagram has a minimum age of 13. Kids can still sign up regardless.


In the privacy statement it says “we believe in deletion, but we can’t guarantee it.” The timer now has up to 10 seconds and then “no limit” for viewing. We need to understand upgrades.

Adding stories can be viewed for 24 hours.

If you have to put a password on a picture, it probably shouldn’t be on an open phone. Snapchat enables contact when a picture is downloaded.

Snapchat allows for video feed as well.

*Make sure “ghost mode” is on. You can go to the settings page to change the default “everyone” to “private.” Snapchat can be a fun app.


A messaging program that allows group text messaging. This is not run by the USA and does not follow US law. There is no privacy on Kik. Probably the worst app for kids.

There are cards that run inside the Kik program. Sharing pictures has all programs that run under the Kik icon. You can block matching.

Anonymous Apps


Sarahah - run out of a faraway country. It is meant to allow for anonymity.

After School - Parents can’t get in. You have to scan student ID. Two schools were shut down because of this.

Allows for people to see homes, valuables, house numbers. There’s more concern for kids with popularity than with safety.

Apps to hide folders/pictures

iCalculator a password protected vault. If you have to have a vault, it may not be the right stuff to have on your phone. If you see an additional calculator, ask why?


Minimum requirements: Name and email address. If we’re checking in, be careful. Check ins can be noticed years later, and how many times visited. Better to check in the day after, especially if away from your family and home. Kids should be asked permission to have their pictures posted. One child mentioned how she wanted her parent to stop posting pictures of her as she was applying for colleges.

Going Live
“You can’t take it back.” Sometimes accidents have been recorded. Avoid this mode if possible.


The sending of sexually explicit digital images, videos, text messages,or emails, usually by cell phone.

53a-196h - Possessing or transmitting child pornagraphy by minor

(1) No person who is thirteen years of age or older but under eighteen years of age may knowingly possess any visual depiction of child pornography that the subject of such visual depiction knowingly and voluntarily transmitted by means of an electronic communication device to such person and in which the subject of such visual depiction is a person thirteen years of age or older but under sixteen years of age.

(2) No person who is thirteen years of age or older but under sixteen years of age may knowingly and voluntarily transmit by means of an electronic communication device a visual depiction of child pornography in which such person is the subject of such visual depiction to another person who is thirteen years of age or older but under eighteen years of age.

(c) Any person who violates the provisions of this section shall be guilty of a class A misdemeanor.

Pictures in three categories: good, inappropriate, or illegal. This law affects the illegal - depending on age, act, body parts exposed, how they are exposed.

If you receive the picture between the ages of 13-18 - delete immediately or bring to law enforcement immediately.

Forwarding makes removal and the situation more difficult.

Scott discussed a story where a girl sent an inappropriate picture to her boyfriend. When they broke up two days later, he sent this around the school. Three weeks later it was on the internet. The picture was taken in 2007. In 2011, Scott Driscoll learned that this girl attempted to apply for a scholarship and was denied when her name was googled. In 2017, the picture was still there.

Is the picture S.A.FE?





Bullying vs Cyber Bullying

Bullying is the act of intentionally, and repeatedly, causing harm to others, through verbal harassment, physical assault, or other more subtle methods of coercion.

Cyber bullying

Cyberbullying occurs when a child or teen is embarrassed, humiliated, harassed, tormented or otherwise targeted by another person using the Internet or other form of digital communication.

Avoid the idea that “snitches get stitches”, heroes help others who need help. A girl noticed a message where a boy in another town was being bullied and informed Scott after his presentation in her school. The resource staff member contacted the school where the boy was enrolled to ask for a check in. He was home and was offered help in time as he was not well, and the timely discovery gave him the medical help he needed.

Scott challenges other kids to be positive, respect each other. He quoted a girl’s saying: “Say what you mean, mean what you say, but don’t say it mean.”

Are there social networking positives?

ALS Ice bucket challenge - scientists are crediting the ALC ice bucket challenge for breakthroughs in research. (Article at this link).

There’s a big difference between Friend and Follower. Followers only know what you want them to know. Friends know who you are.

Colleges are looking at what you do; your digital footprint is important. They will pull scholarships due to online activity.

Is a digital footprint important? Look at this through the eyes of a child/parent.

Acronyms to learn:

Controlling access is a free parental control for your router. What’s good about the router is that any device that connects to it gives us a little more control.

You can also turn off the router in the home.

Safe Searching there are better search engines out there.

Monitoring Apps

Circle with Disney





Go to his website - print out the cards which give information about the apps.

You can also download family contracts from Scott’s website.

Child version

Teen version

Families decide what the consequences are for breaking. Parents sign and agree to learn and listen.

Steps we can take with our children

  • Set accounts to private

  • Approvate only to use you know and want to communicate with

  • # can be permanent so use them wisely

  • Don’t post anonymously. If you can’t say it as you, it probably should not be said

  • Protect your password

  • Recognize a person, friend or peer in trouble - GET INVOLVED!!

  • Parental Controls

  • Refresh our brains about strangers (if meeting someone on Craig’s List - ask to go to a police department parking lot)

  • Be respectful

  • Do not share other people’s contact information

  • Sit and learn.

  • Limit our time on line (Good luck!!!)


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Q and A

Q. Should the computer be in the kitchen?

A. Depends on the age and maturity.

Q. If you observe something on the internet that’s of concern, eg. guns and violence. Who do you contact? Parent, school, police?

A. It’s a judgement call. Depends on the parent and the community. All can work together.

Scott offered to respond to questions via his website. See the link at the start for more resources and parent supports.

Thank you Scott for an excellent presentation!

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